Interviewing is a lot like dating. When two people agree to
go to dinner or watch a movie with each other, it's generally because
they had something in common, found each other interesting and wanted to
spend time together.

When interviewing job candidates,
interviewers are looking for these same things. They don't want to hire
just anyone. They want to hire a candidate who can do the job
and connect
with others in the workplace. Therefore, it's not enough for job
seekers to highlight their skills, knowledge and experience. They must
be able to create chemistry and connect with the interviewer if they
want that person's buy-in for the job, according to Susan Britton
Whitcomb, author of "Interview Magic, Second Edition."
"During an interview, you will be judged on three dimensions: chemistry,
competency and compensation. The first dimension -- chemistry -- is
critical. You'll want to connect with the company's mission, its people
and its customers. And you'll certainly want the interviewer to connect with you," Whitcomb says.
Given
only a brief amount of time, many people find it very difficult to
connect with interviewers, who are often complete strangers to them.
Further complicating the task is the fact that many people think of
interviews as high-stress, pressure-packed situations. This attitude
influences job seekers to spend their time worrying and trying not to
make mistakes, instead of making an effort to connect with interviewers.
To
help job seekers overcome this common obstacle and quickly create
chemistry between themselves and interviewers, Whitcomb offers the
following tips in "Interview Magic":
1. Share commonalitiesDiscuss
your passion for your field or enthusiasm for a new product or service,
as well as personal commonalities such as family (i.e., children of the
same age), recreational activities, hobbies or interests.
2. L.I.S.T.E.N. attentivelyLaser your focus.
Investigate and be curious.
Silence your tongue -- hold your judgment and open your mind.
Take brief notes and take time to formulate your response.
Elevate the other person.
Note
the nonverbal, including your body language and that of your
interviewer. It is impossible to connect with others if you don't listen
well.
3. R.E.S.P.O.N.D. well
Remember your objective;
Engage the interviewer.
Share succinctly.
Point to benefits.
Offer proof.
Never drone on.
Dedicate yourself to a win-win relationship.
4. Pay attention to the 'howchas'The "howchas" are
how you say something
(as opposed to
what
you say). Tone, inflection, body language, attitude and motive combine
to make how you say it just as important as what you say. To improve
your 'howcha's,' remain deferential, respectfully curious and concerned
about the interviewer/company's welfare. Use verbal and body language
mirroring to enhance communication, matching aspects of your interviewer's voice, language, mannerisms and body language.
5. Recognize their learning style, whether auditory, visual or kinesthetic/tactile.Offer
variety in your interview so that each style is addressed. This might
include answering questions for the auditory learners, writing an
outline on a whiteboard or showing a PowerPoint demonstration for the
visual learners, and engaging the kinesthetic/tactile learners in
activities or encouraging them to take more thorough notes.
6. Understand their temperament Theorists
(often seen in executive roles) value impressive training or
credentials, and stress vision, logic, innovation, mastery, progress and
excellence. Catalysts (often seen in human service roles) value harmony
in work relationships and appreciate ideal, meaningful work
environments. Stabilizers (often seen in finance and management
roles) value factual, reality-based responses in a sequential, detailed
fashion. Improvisers (often seen in sales/marketing roles) value
action, excitement and variety, and prefer solutions that are practical
and effective to help them get what they want.
Making these
efforts throughout the interview will go a long way toward impressing
the interviewer and positioning yourself ahead of other candidates. Even
if you don't win the job offer, the interviewer may be inclined to
recommend you to others or keep you in mind for future opportunities if
he or she developed a connection with you.
"Acing an interview --
even for a job that isn't perfect for you -- will put you on the radar
screen of those who can help you in the future," Whitcomb says.
"Remember that interviewers have their own network of contacts that will
likely be valuable to you."