Interviewing is a lot like dating. When two people agree to 
go to dinner or watch a movie with each other, it's generally because 
they had something in common, found each other interesting and wanted to
 spend time together.

When interviewing job candidates, 
interviewers are looking for these same things. They don't want to hire 
just anyone. They want to hire a candidate who can do the job 
and connect
 with others in the workplace. Therefore, it's not enough for job 
seekers to highlight their skills, knowledge and experience. They must 
be able to create chemistry and connect with the interviewer if they 
want that person's buy-in for the job, according to Susan Britton 
Whitcomb, author of "Interview Magic, Second Edition."
"During an interview, you will be judged on three dimensions: chemistry,
 competency and compensation. The first dimension -- chemistry -- is 
critical. You'll want to connect with the company's mission, its people 
and its customers. And you'll certainly want the interviewer to connect with you," Whitcomb says.
Given
 only a brief amount of time, many people find it very difficult to 
connect with interviewers, who are often complete strangers to them. 
Further complicating the task is the fact that many people think of 
interviews as high-stress, pressure-packed situations. This attitude 
influences job seekers to spend their time worrying and trying not to 
make mistakes, instead of making an effort to connect with interviewers.
To
 help job seekers overcome this common obstacle and quickly create 
chemistry between themselves and interviewers, Whitcomb offers the 
following tips in "Interview Magic":
1.  Share commonalitiesDiscuss
 your passion for your field or enthusiasm for a new product or service,
 as well as personal commonalities such as family (i.e., children of the
 same age), recreational activities, hobbies or interests.
2.  L.I.S.T.E.N. attentivelyLaser your focus. 
Investigate and be curious. 
Silence your tongue -- hold your judgment and open your mind. 
Take brief notes and take time to formulate your response. 
Elevate the other person. 
Note
 the nonverbal, including your body language and that of your 
interviewer. It is impossible to connect with others if you don't listen
 well.
3.  R.E.S.P.O.N.D. well
Remember your objective; 
Engage the interviewer. 
Share succinctly. 
Point to benefits. 
Offer proof. 
Never drone on. 
Dedicate yourself to a win-win relationship.
4.  Pay attention to the 'howchas'The "howchas" are 
how you say something
 (as opposed to 
what
 you say). Tone, inflection, body language, attitude and motive combine 
to make how you say it just as important as what you say. To improve 
your 'howcha's,' remain deferential, respectfully curious and concerned 
about the interviewer/company's welfare. Use verbal and body language 
mirroring to enhance communication, matching aspects of your interviewer's voice, language, mannerisms and body language.
5.  Recognize their learning style, whether auditory, visual or kinesthetic/tactile.Offer
 variety in your interview so that each style is addressed. This might 
include answering questions for the auditory learners, writing an 
outline on a whiteboard or showing a PowerPoint demonstration for the 
visual learners, and engaging the kinesthetic/tactile learners in 
activities or encouraging them to take more thorough notes.
6.  Understand their temperament Theorists
 (often seen in executive roles) value impressive training or 
credentials, and stress vision, logic, innovation, mastery, progress and
 excellence. Catalysts (often seen in human service roles) value harmony
 in work relationships and appreciate ideal, meaningful work 
environments. Stabilizers (often seen in finance and management
 roles) value factual, reality-based responses in a sequential, detailed
 fashion. Improvisers (often seen in sales/marketing roles) value 
action, excitement and variety, and prefer solutions that are practical 
and effective to help them get what they want.
Making these 
efforts throughout the interview will go a long way toward impressing 
the interviewer and positioning yourself ahead of other candidates. Even
 if you don't win the job offer, the interviewer may be inclined to 
recommend you to others or keep you in mind for future opportunities if 
he or she developed a connection with you.
 "Acing an interview --
 even for a job that isn't perfect for you -- will put you on the radar 
screen of those who can help you in the future," Whitcomb says. 
"Remember that interviewers have their own network of contacts that will
 likely be valuable to you."